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January 2021
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Valentine’s Day Aaaaargh
Filed under: General
Posted by: DrWayne @ 9:22 am

OK, It’s here.  A friend who was recently divorced told me “Oh No, Valentines is coming and I don’t even have a Valentine”.
Another said “I hate Valentines Day.  It’s so stressful.  You are supposed to show people you Love them Every Day and this is just a day for Card Makers and Florists and Candy Makers to make big bucks.”  I understand where they are both coming from.  For many people it is a sad day, a day of depression, a day they just wish would hurry up and get over so they can get on with life.  For many men it’s a no win day.  It doesn’t matter how much or how little you do you are in a great competition with what the wife or girl friends friends have done for them.  Jenna’s husband bought her a diamond and Sally’s husband gave her tickets to a Bahamma cruise.  Your flowers and card can’t compete with that.  And you not only are competing with other peoples Valentine, but with whatever you’ve done in the past.  So if you took the wife on a dinner in Paris last year, how are you going to top that this year?  Nope, you’ll not top that this year and you like me will probably give up trying.  You aren’t going to win!

For those who ”don’t have a valentine”, remember there is someone who always loves you, who will always be your valentine and whose gift no one will ever top.  God loves you.  He’ll never walk out on you.  He’ll never divorce you and He keeps on giving and giving even though the gift of His son will never be topped.  No one can compete with that kind of love and it’s love that is there not just on Valentine’s Day but every day of the year.

This is a time for many in which loneliness and depression reaches a maximum.  But, you don’t have to stay there.  If you are alone, and “don’t have a Valentine” this year, why not be a Valentine to someone else who is in the same boat.  Sit down and make a list of all of the people you know who are alone today, the recently divorced, the widowed, the soldiers you know away from home, the students you know off at college, the people you know in the nursing home.  Now how can you make a great Valentine’s Day for them.  Yeah it may be too late to send a Valentine’s Day Card or Flowers or Candy, but many will be pulled out of their depression and loneliness just knowing you care.  God tells us “Love your Neighbor as yourself”.  There is no better time than now to act out that command.  Pick up the phone and call those on your list who you know are lonely today.  Email them.  Or if possible just invite someone out to lunch.  What a difference you can make in someones Valentines Day with just a little effort and I promise that your loneliness and depression will go away while you are spreading God’s Love.

Enjoy this day and help someone else enjoy it too.   Wayne

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